What if?  The two most hated words in the English language.  

How many times have you asked yourself this question?  What if I had taken that job? What if I had gone on that date?  What if I had made that investment? What if, what if what if? But do these words really have to be so negative?  What if (ha ha) you put a positive spin on them. Like what if I had done nothing when I was in that crappy marriage?  What if I had not pursued my dream career? What if I had not listened to my financial planner when they told me that investment was a bad idea?  See where I am going with this?

Look we all have some regrets in life.  Some big and some not so big. It all boils down to choices.  Every choice you have made, good or bad, is the result of where you are in your life: love, career, home etc.  Get my drift? Living with your “what if” and being ok with the road it has taken you, it is the key to happiness and not pulling your hair out.

If I had a dollar for every tear I cried because of my bad choices, I’d be rich.  But maybe you like me, have not focused on the good choices we made. For whatever reason we only seem to remember the bad shit we have gone through and the good stuff is almost like an afterthought.  And that my friend is a big mistake we are all making.

Maybe because we are bombarded with images of what the perfect life, love and career looks like that we compare ourselves to this version of perfection.  I mean who can compete with a super model that has married the perfect handsome man with the perfect house and career? Well shake it off. Life is all about living.  That means good choices, bad choices and consequences that come from both.

So the next time you go down the “what if” rabbit hole, shake your head and change your thinking.  Glass half empty? Nope glass half full!! Muffin top? Nope, delicious curves!! See it’s that easy!!!  

Don’t let the what if’s in your life, have you questioning all the good “what ifs”  Sometimes it’s ok to put on those rose colored glasses. And what if you take them off and don’t like what you see?   Do something about it and change it. End of story.