Yes, I am going there again, because it’s too important to not keep reiterating to you, the importance of living your life, in the manner that you want and not the life that others expect you to live.

Let’s face it; there are a desire, a yearning and a longing inside of you that you can no longer ignore. It keeps bubbling to the surface and you hope that if you keep “busy” enough that that yearning and longing will get lost in all of the noise of your life.

But guess what, it won’t. Why because it has gotten to the point where you are actually starting to listen to that desire and that longing and actually giving it some credence and not being afraid to look it in the eye.

Although in each of us, the questions may be slightly different and the importance of the questions may be different, but however, you shuffle the deck it comes down to these four questions that you need to ask yourself:

  1. What do you really want from life? If you could wave a magic and it could represent the life you long and desire for, what would that look like? 
  2. What is your relationship like? With your partner or husband? Is it the kind of soul mate, toe-curling, oatmeal cookie kind of love that you have longed for all your life? 
  3. What is the work that you desire to do? Do you want to have a career, own your own business? If so what would that look like? 
  4. Are you happy with your financial situation? If not what do you want that to look like? 

These are the 4 key desires and yearnings in our lives that continue to rear their head until you decide to deal with them and finally decide to start to live your life by your design and not by default.

The problem is that you want more, or that you are certain, but what exactly is MORE? What does MORE look like?  Smell like, taste like, and feel like?  Right?  I mean you just keep spinning around in circles, like a dog chasing its tail.  Dare I say, you are UNHAPPY!!!  You have no idea how to get from Point A to Point B. That is how do you bridge the gap between where your life is and where you want to be? Because if you are honest you are likely just going through the motions. And that can be so discouraging and dissatisfying. 

I mean let’s step back for a moment. Look at your life. Whose life is it that you are living? Your life? Or is it the life that your parents expected you to live, or the career that they expected you to choose, or the husband they wanted you to marry. Be totally honest. Who’s ideal life are you living? Yours or theirs? I know you are shaking your head and maybe even feeling, like OH My God! How did this happen? Well, the good news is that it does not have to stay this way. Seriously! You can make the change. Do it while you still have a life to live. Do you want to come to the end of your life and say “I wish I had lived a different life” or do you want to be saying “I am so glad I chose the life I chose to live”? I mean it’s a no-brainer, isn’t it?

Don’t be afraid to say that you want to be doing something else. That you are dissatisfied with your life or career, or even your relationship. That you want to make more money and that you want more freedom and travel more.  Don’t be afraid to find out what exactly you want in life. You are not being selfish nor are you being greedy; you are being true to yourself, to that desire and longing that is bubbling up inside of you. 

You can still be so grateful for all that you have in life and acknowledge the good and wonderful things you have and the people that surround you. But being grateful may not quell the desire for more and the feelings of unhappiness that continually come to mind.

So know this. If those desires and yearnings continue to surface and despite “having it all” you are still feeling a sense of unhappiness, then do yourself a favor. Listen to your intuition. Listen to that inner voice telling you that it’s time to make a change. Change your business, your career, your financial situation, your relationship, your body; change whatever it is that is not what you want it to be. Change what is not making you happy!

This is your Life!!! You have but this time only. Why live it by somebody else’s expectations? Don’t be another statistic of an unhappy person that lived and died in a state of wanting more, desiring more and doing nothing about it.

I leave you with this thought. Live your Life by Your Design, NOT BY DEFAULT!!!

Take the road less traveled, the road not taken. 

It’s time to make your difference!!!!

With Much Love,